To the individual who asked the concern. I apologise for the length of this remark, however felt it too important not to help where I could.
I do not know your state of mind that has you asking such a concern, but as a 60- year-old male (2016) I wish to discuss something that you need to learn about emotional and physical discomfort that are the typical factors for considering taking one’s own life.
Emotional discomfort and depression can be caused by numerous things but in general can be the outcome of either a life injury difficult to forget, personal remorse over something we ourselves provided for which our conscience can not be calmed, discontentment, inherited mental disorder, or due to negative effects of some medication (as in my case a couple of years back). What prevails about all these sources of psychological pain is that it is possible to engage reason, or eventually be assisted to engage reason, enabling minutes to think things through.
Extreme Physical Discomfort
Extreme physical pain is very various. Imagine we are seriously anxious about something, or madly in love for the really first time, or having a major migraine headache, possibly having simply broken our hand and thus in agony, or depressed through being informed our mother simply passed away. This may appear counter intuitive, but regardless the emotion we might be in, or normal everyday physical discomfort we may be experiencing, the moment we need to endure the most extreme kinds of excruciating physical discomfort like that when a tumour is spreading through the abdomen or some other sensitive part of the body, all these other discomforts completel y disappear, and I mean they are entirely controlled or turned off.
My experience in health center handling a terminal disease at the time (though now in recession) has shown that to be the case with severe anxieties about leaving my spouse behind if I was to pass away, absolutely disappearing from my memory throughout the time the extreme physical pain was felt. The psychological anxieties only returned when the physical pain was brought under control.
Upon experiencing this I talked to the other patients in hospital a few days later on who also had terminal diseases, and talked to the nurses, and they all corroborated that such physical pain robs a person of psychological cognisance.
What does this mean then? It implies the ‘us’ inside our head, the ‘self’, whoever we want to call the individual controlling our physical lorry called the body, it has definitely no mental executive control against severe physical discomfort. The self is at its mercy until it subsides, unable to believe to even reason at a simple level.
It also tells us something else. It shows that whatever part of the brain is responsible for psychological discomfort it can be turned off while we are still mindful (which is what extreme physical discomfort is doing). This means it may be manageable voluntarily to some degree, and it is. The reverse though is not real, to remove severe physical discomfort deep within the body the only option science has discovered is to be sedated which tends to either dull the ‘self’ or causes us to fall into complete unconsciousness, the absence of self, till we wake once again where upon the discomfort returns.
Therefore, for this factor and having seen grown men sob with distressing unrelenting pain, I do believe that if the reason for the pain medically can not be treated and it causes the person to shriek in misery, then compassion dictates for me that society must allow that individual to be humanely put to sleep if that is their dream. So, what is called Assisted Suicide (AS) or Helped Voluntary Death (AVD) depending upon who you speak with, should be allowed, and is now I’m delighted to say legal in a growing number of Western countries and states of the US.
With the only factor for suicide in my out of the method and therefore directly answering your question, I wish to deal now in the remaining part of my remark with psychological discomfort.
While the self can do absolutely nothing about physical discomfort, we do have a measure of capability to factor throughout psychological discomfort. Hence the individual suffering the psychological problem should clinch the life-line of reason at every opportunity and must interact such ideas to good friends and enjoyed ones so that they too can assist hold our reason together during the dark hours.
Now it might be that life has actually not given us the breaks we would have liked and that has triggered us to feel useless maybe. This can be due to the following frame of mind which I will highlight with an image:
What does this male see in the mirror? Himself you might conclude. However what he sees is not himself however what he has slowly concerned relate to all his life growing up, an image in the mirror. Even the real face is not who the individual actually is, because the real individual lives inside his brain, that’s where the personality lives not on his face.
The exact same with the body, if he were to take a long in the mirror. What he sees because case is not himself either, only the physical automobile that he has actually grown to embody and also relate to. The illusion, and delusion, is that some of us never ever stop to value that life fools us into thinking that what we see is what is real. We have no capability to see the genuine self that hides within the neurons of the 2lbs of grey matter making up the brain. All we can do is watch the actions and behaviour of that physical car, for through those actions we get a look of the make-up of the man within.
I think one important aspect to decrease emotional discomfort is to stop relating to that image we see and start gaining a third-person viewpoint. If we can train ourselves to do that, see ourselves as if from an observer’s vantage point, we can start to reason better and disown the discomfort that is felt from a first-person life perspective, a life where we take whatever personally that comes through our ears and our eyes.
The next action is to appreciate that the self, the real individual inside is not constantly responsible for our own actions. Much of the time when young and a teen, and in some cases even when older, we can be like a ball in a pinball device being pushed from pillar to publish by situations not of our picking. This due to the fact that we belong to a society of individuals who are all impacted by what others do and state in relatively foreseeable methods.
We need to understand that in some cases some of us require the rough and tumble of life in order to learn how to take control of it.
So, when life is tough that is just the time when we need to hang on due to the fact that through it we will discover something important about ourselves. Therefore, at the end of the response you will get a pdf to more details revealing why we must not always take obligation for our early errors, and suggests a book of a man that needed to be on Death Row in America before he understood he hadn’t over the years taken control of himself, his own automobile. It is a most inspiring book.
In the link above is a video by Psychologist Paul Gilbert on the subject of Mindfulness which I suggest you investigate thoroughly and other sources. If you wish to improve your joy and wellness Gilbert is among numerous nonreligious specialists who show how our thinking processes can hijack our minds creating damaging thought patterns. Mindfulness incorporates nonreligious methods to manage the ravages of a troubled mind and I can guarantee its success, as well as the British federal government who arranged to have Mindfulness taught on the National Health Service, which they wouldn’t do if they hadn’t empirical assistance for its efficacy.
I finish with Hellen Keller another terrific example of someone who battled versus the chances and could have felt her life was unworthy living. At the age of 19 months upon contracting meningitis she absolutely lost both her sight and hearing. Deaf and blind, life challenges seemingly insurmountable for many of us, she in some way through large grit and determination educated herself and ended up being an author. Her quote listed below teaches me something about life that I utilize even today as an object lesson when things get difficult, understanding her own battles were far greater than mine.
” Character can not be established in ease and quiet. Just through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition motivated, and success achieved.”
Success can be simply learning something new about yourself in order to browse life much better, something that can not be done if we give-up just when another of life’s lessons was about to unfold.
My science background and experience of life tends to make me life’s journey as if it is a deliberate test to discover our character and teach us to find out to manage who we are. So, keep looking at yourself as if from the position of an observer, commend the individual looking in the mirror for having actually got this far when you could have so easily given up. Give yourself some needed motivation to keep going, remembering Hellen Keller’s words, since trials are designed to shape your character.
Edit: I have kept the link in the text to the file below in case the link must stop working. The video is still on my server however if that needs to stop working for any reason leave a remark and I will re-establish it.